What makes a person an adult? Is it age? Is it status? Is it a mature statement that they say to someone is it the way they dress and can take care of themselves and practice good hygiene? Is it being able to drive? is a graduate in college? is it learning how to use your time productively? What makes an adult?
I almost feel like that’s asking what is normal. I had a ceramics teacher in high school that asked me that question. Once I brought a piece that I was working on and told her that I feel like it didn’t look normal. She looked at me and asked Abby, what is normal? That really impacted me and has made me think about that all these years. I redirect that question to Adulting. What is an adult?
My personal choice to think of what an adult is, is someone who is intelligent. The best description of intelligent I’ve been told was by my friend named Judy, who has Alzheimer’s. She told me that intelligence is someone who can adapt to any situation. I feel like that is what being an adult is. Being an adult is someone who has stress and excitement and fright in their lives, but know how to adjust to it.
I am a mother of a beautiful girl named Maisie. She is turning 18 months in two weeks. I have an incredible husband and a comfortable life. I feel like what made me an adult with how we got here. Life wasn't always easy and life threw curve balls! Seth didn’t match for residency. I had a really hard pregnancy and a really hard labor. Seth failed his boards. I had a hard time at work! I wasn’t able to breast-feed like I hoped. We were wronged by people. And at the flipside of that I have personally wronged people I’m sure! To jump to the opposite side of the scale, we have had the most joyous moments that require the biggest amount of celebration! All of those emotions good and bad have required us to adjust in some way! Obviously, the hardships required us to pull up our bootstraps and look for solutions that could accommodate the lifestyle we desired. And when we realized our desired lifestyle want going to be accomplished, we changed our ways and things turned out to be better. When we got super excited emotions in our lives, we had to adjust to those, and make sure we kept ourselves humble.
I feel like I am adjusting every day with a child who is changing constantly! I have learned to adjust my parenting to meet her needs. I have learned to use my time, more wiser to gain the life that I desire. I’ve chosen to let things go that used to bother me.
Being an adult is embracing the change that life brings! We’ve all heard that you can’t grow outside your comfort zone. Being an adult is not being scared to be in a state of discomfort. It’s recognizing that discomfort and it’s dealing with it head-on rather than shying away. Overall, being an adult is giving everything you have to life! Knowing your goals, and your self and your desires, and your strengths, and your weaknesses allow you to be more at peace with unexpected.
What’s your why?
Au revior y’all!
Abbs
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